Naptime Fights!

When Addy was about a month old, we moved her into her own room.  This was the best decision for us since Addy is an extremely noisy sleeper (she grunts ALL night long), and she would wake up everytime we moved or made noise.  Since about a week after we moved her, she started sleeping from 12-6 and then goes back to sleep until 9 or 10.  Its been wonderful!  She absolutely sleeps like a champ.  We lay her down after feeding her while she is still awake, and she goes to sleep on her own.  She rarely fusses, and if she does, it rarely lasts more than a few minutes.  Nice right?

Well, that is night time, but naps during the day are a completely different story.  My child will not sleep in her bed during the afternoon for ANYTHING.  She can be totally exhausted and asleep in my arms after eating, and as soon as I lay her down she screams.  And I don't mean she cries, she screams like a banshee.  She cries so hard she sweats, her face tuns red, and once, she even became hoarse from crying so hard.  I have tried everything I can think of.  I have tried swaddling her and turning on a cd.  I put up a blanket on the window to make it darker, and I tried leaving the light on since she is fine sleeping out in the living room.   Nothing has worked.  Finally, we just started letting her cry it out.  She screams so hard, I can hardly stand hearing it. 

Now, understand, I worked in daycare in Lincoln, and I am very convinced that it is important for babies to learn to put themselves to sleep, and I am completely ok letting her cry it out.  The problem is that she gets SO hysterical--and it can last FOREVER.  I hate to hear her cry so hard, but I think it is SO important for her to sleep in her own bed, and I have WAY too much to do to hold my baby while she sleeps everyday.  Besides all of that, she gets overtired and extraordinarily fussy all evening when she doesn't get good naps in her bed.  So what's a mom to do?  The last few days I have been letting her cry for 5 minutes and then going in to comfort her and then laying her back down.  We do that cycle for 20-30 minutes and then she usually sleeps--for a while. 

I'm just kind of at a loss as to what we should do.  Why will she sleep at night with no problems but not during the day?  I don't want my daughter to have abandonment issues because I've let her cry for too long at such a young age (or so say the parenting magazines), but she needs to sleep in her bed so that she is not super cranky all evening...my goodness!! 

Who would have ever guessed that MY child would be stubborn??